Often we see other people are facing adversity or problems in life. At the same time, we as friends will certainly feel sorry for him and try to cheer him up or encourage him. However, sometimes the words of encouragement that we throw are something our friends don’t want. Sentences that are considered as an encouragement and a motivation actually make things worse. Well, that’s called toxic positivity . Of course, this word is familiar to us, so what does toxic positivity actually mean? In a sense, toxic positivity is behavior that normalizes a situation on positive things and tends to ignore negative feelings.Toxic positivity is usually done by someone who wants to encourage someone who is being hit by a problem. Some examples of toxic positivity sentences are as follows.

1. You’re still better, it’s me…

There is no need to compare our problems with others because other people tell their problems to express their emotions, not to compare their suffering. Everyone has a different level of tolerance for the problems they face. So, never ever compare our fate with people who have opened up to us, because it seems disrespectful and not empathetic to others. Because basically, the psychological state of each of us is different.

However, we can prevent the emergence of toxic positivity sentences by saying this:

It’s okay, what you feel is normal. Don’t worry, I’m here ready to listen to you.

2. Come on let’s go

We may often hear this word as an encouragement to ourselves or others to stay motivated. This is indeed good, but it must be said to the right object, lest the word be thrown at someone who is tired or stressed. Because it will not be a motivation if a person’s physical and mental state is not fine. The imposition of this spirit does not improve the situation, but actually reduces the quality of one’s work.

However, we can prevent the emergence of toxic positivity sentences by saying this:

It’s okay, just do what you can. If you need help, don’t hesitate, okay?

3. You have to think positive…

Indeed, thinking positively about all God’s will is a good thing. However, sometimes humans are less able to control these thoughts to keep leading to positive things. Moreover, we also can not limit every feeling that arises. So, we can’t restrain everyone to always be good because we also don’t know how stressful someone feels.

However, we can prevent the emergence of toxic positivity sentences by saying this:

There are times when things don’t go the way we expected. Just say what you feel right now, I’m ready to listen.

4. Let’s be enthusiastic, don’t be weak

We should not say this to our friends who are in a slump. Especially if he has the courage to open himself up to tell us. The use of this word will only offend our friend, as if he is a weak person. Even though this is not the case, there is indeed a natural limit for someone to be able to hide their problems. And that feeling will explode when a person is no longer able to hold the pain inside him.

However, we can prevent the emergence of toxic positivity sentences by saying this:

What you’re going through is tough, but I’m sure you can do it. Oh yeah, if you have anything say yes, maybe I can help.

5. You should be grateful

Gratitude is an obligation, especially when juxtaposed with all the blessings and gifts of the Lord of the worlds. However, when someone is sad, stressed, or nagging does it indicate that someone is not grateful? Of course not, being grateful is a way to thank God, and of course everyone is grateful. However, for feelings of disappointment and anger, it is a natural human instinct to express all emotions in oneself. So, there is no relationship between a person’s emotional expression with gratitude. This sentence becomes a toxic positivity because it can make other people feel guilty.